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Post by joandsarah on Feb 15, 2010 16:39:24 GMT -5
He's probably being a clueless male.
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Post by Sawyer on Feb 15, 2010 17:38:48 GMT -5
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Post by valpre1983 on Feb 19, 2010 3:22:35 GMT -5
Any word on your Valentine Jill, my ears, my eyes rather, eagerly await more drama :-)
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Post by Tina ☺ on Feb 19, 2010 14:36:49 GMT -5
She seems to be artfully dodging this thread now!
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Post by joandsarah on Feb 20, 2010 16:13:55 GMT -5
What are you about Sawyer? That was about chocolate guy, not you! And yes Jilly, do tell!
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Post by Tina ☺ on Feb 20, 2010 18:21:27 GMT -5
She's avoiding it like the plague!
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Post by jillyson on Feb 20, 2010 18:56:51 GMT -5
I just haven't pulled it up at home so dh doesn't see it! Lol! (that should answer your question - no I didn't tell him & I have no intention of doing so!) Some guys can take stuff like that, but it would just fester in his tiny little mind until he blows. Nope. This is just between us! Well, my choco guy has to call me to fix problems with receipts - that's one of my jobs, taking care of the Cleveland branch's receipts and inventory corrections, and he's in charge of that on the branch end. (I'm in corporate - I also handle the Atlanta Georgia and Elmhurst, Illinios branches) He calls a few times a day, but now when I answer the phone, he says "Hello, Darling." (which he's trying to quote an old Waylon Jennings country song - one of the things we have in common is the knowledge of worthless trivia) I also get, "Hello, Honey. How was your day?" I'll tell ya, I just don't know how to take this anymore. This all used to be kidding, but now...?
Man, why'd he have to goof up a cool friendship?
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Post by Tina ☺ on Feb 20, 2010 19:00:30 GMT -5
It all sounds very interesting. So... he never called you 'darling' or 'honey' before all this? If not, when he calls you honey or darling, you could casually point out that you'd prefer it if he would use your actual name instead. 'Darling' and 'honey' (unless it's your sweetheart call you that) are a bit derogatory in nature.
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Post by catmania80 on Feb 20, 2010 19:01:46 GMT -5
I agree! @ Jilly: Why are you avoiding this thread? I'm interested in knowing if anything else has happened or if he has said anything else to you so you can know what to do. Still though , play it cool and don't tell DH until you know what's up. Then I think you should let him know. Otherwise he may get angry or upset for nothing and start a scene, possibly, when you are at work or after work. Do you think your DH would be upset? Mine sure would have been, even though he didn't care for me at all. I'm glad I'm divorced.
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Post by jillyson on Feb 20, 2010 19:11:31 GMT -5
I hear you, Cat! I've had plenty of the "I don't want you, but I don't want anyone else to have you' type. No, my dh would be stupid and obsess about it. I can handle this one on my own. (well, with you guys helping out!) He's been up here like 3 times already, and he never comes up here when I'm playing. I swear they have radar that alerts them when you're doing something like this. Choco would do the Waylon "Hello, Darlin' "thing alot, but like I said, that was because we are probably the only people in the company who would recognize the song. It was just something silly. The Hello Honey how was your day thing is new. I've called him my "work husband" before, because there's days we talk more than I talk to my dh - same for him - because of work. So if the candy & card thing hadn't happened, I would just think it was a reference to that. Now, I just don't know.
We were really good buddies before this. We joked all the time, talked about spouses, music, work, life in general.
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Post by catmania80 on Feb 20, 2010 19:21:27 GMT -5
I hear you Jilly ! So, basically he ruined a really good friendship by starting this stuff. Is there anyway you can ask this guy at work about this. Like why he started this and what he is he looking for or is this all being done in friendship? It doesn't sound like it to me, but you won't really know what's going through his Head unless you ask him and that's where it can get sticky, ,too. What do you think Jilly ,would this idea work with this guy? Let me know.
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Post by jillyson on Feb 20, 2010 19:30:10 GMT -5
That's just it - if he was just being friendly & it's me taking it wrong, then I'll look like an idiot for suggesting he's crushing on me. Then it'll be ME who ruins the friendship! (although I don't think it'll ever be the same again. He was like the brother I never had!) I'm going to quit typing in this thread for a bit - he was just here again trying to see what I'm doing. I swear they pass out some kind of radar to boys when they're still in grade school that tells them when we don't want them around!
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Post by catmania80 on Feb 20, 2010 19:37:25 GMT -5
I hear you Jilly we can talk later or another day! where are you going I'll meet you there?
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Post by jillyson on Apr 17, 2010 19:20:23 GMT -5
Well, I have an update... Friday was my work buddy's BD. I got him a tiny pack of donuts from the vending machine, and gave him a magnet I made that list the nine circles of Hell. (I made one for myself a long time ago, and he admired it. When he calls for help with work, I answer the phone "7th circle of hell, how can I help you?")
He called to thank me, and talked about the stuff his family was doing for his birthday that evening, so I thought, "Thank GOD I didn't say anything - I totally took everything wrong!" While I had him on the phone, I asked him if he could save me some boxes from the warehouse for my move. He said he'd meet me at 5 in the warehouse & help me load them.
So I was happy, thinking I had my buddy back.
At 5, I met him in the warehouse, and we load up all the boxes. Then he leans against my car and starts talking. I'm freezing (it dropped to freezing by 5) but it's his birthday and he did me this favor, so I chat awhile.
Then he tells me he had this dream about me. Yeah, THAT kind of dream. THEN he proceeds to describe in great detail against my protests, every single act. We're now the only 2 people in the parking lot, and I'm yelling "TMI!!! I don't need to hear this! I'd never tell you things like this if I dreamed it! and various other things until he finally finished.
Well, I steered the conversation back to his family celebration. "You'd better get home, I'm sure your wife has something special in mind" kind of stuff. He's not having it. He starts telling me about this gal from high school he had a crush on who had red hair & glasses (like me) and how if he had another chance with her, he'd leave his wife in a heartbeat.
So I grab this chance to try and make things clear. I tell him I had a guy offer to leave his wife for me, and I thought it was the most disgusting thing he could've said. I told him I'd be VERY turned off by a man who would so casually leave his family for a silly crush. I said that even if the guy did go ahead & do it, that I'd never be with him & he'd end up alone. I told him I could never espect a man who did something like that, and I could never be with someone I didn't respect. Then I said I didn't think he was the kind of man who would do that, which was why he was one of my friends.
That did it. He got off my car, I told him I hope he has a very happy birthday with his family, thanked him for the boxes, and got the hell out of there.
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Post by Tina ☺ on Apr 17, 2010 19:47:13 GMT -5
Yep. He's a leach alright! He did everything except come right out and ask you to hop into bed with him!
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