RANT ALERT! Ugh, Family

[Sawyer]

Ugh, my family is driving me crazy! UGH!
I'll start with the father's day celebration at my grandparents house:
The subject somehow got to Adam Lambert and American Idol...
Grandma: Did you see in Rolling Stone that Adam Lambert is gay?
Mom: No, we saw that on the news though.
Grandma: I think that was the reason why he didn't win AI.
Mom: Really?
Grandma: Yeah, I don't think it would be right if America had a...gay idol.
Then the conversation went on for a few minutes abut what he really thought about Kris Allen....and such.
Ugh, that drives me crazy! My own family thinks that it would be wrong if america had a gay idol! What's wrong with that? Ugh! Oh, and neither of them have any clue about me. Although, I was giving them hints........I was checking out this one dude on tv, they had it turned to "Merlin". Something about this magician, it's on Channel 4.

Rant #2
My mom was screaming at me earlier. I had not gotten up until 4 for like the 3rd time this summer, usually I get up at one-ish.
"That's rediculous, Sawyer! What did you say to me in that email? HUH?!" I sent her an email talking about how I would IF SHE WANTED ME TO get up at 7am and go running with her, do my chores and stuff, so that I could get a new computer...which I have been doing some of it, but others, it is taking me a while to get into the grove of things.
Anyway, she just keeps building and building and building! On stupid crap!

Like,
"You are so ungrateful! I drive you all the way to Ste. Gene, so that you can take a photography class, which I payed for! AND...I payed for most of your camera, so that you can take this photography class! On the way down there, you just sleep, on the way up here, you just sleep! And you never eat anything! I pay for lunch, and you don't eat any of it!" She goes on like this for about a half hour, and most of it's not even correct!

She almost made me take that photography class! She's the one who suggested that I buy a new camera! I was going to use my money on it! Then she went all soft and payed for over half of it herself..........so that she can go home and act like I'm some ungrateful little punk who does nothing! The argument basically ended like this "Where did I go wrong?" the second time she's told me I'm a screw up this year. "If you want to go live like a pig, go live with your father."

That one was from me ripping off my fingernails, and then forgetting to throw them away....which she should be a little....upset about, but not enough to tell me that I should go live with my dad! Arrrgh!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I literally after that went to the shower (which is what she told me to do) and cried for like an hour, occasionally pondering my choices.

If I could do anything, it would be to get the hell away from that bitch and just move down to florida, where my step-brother and his wife live. But we all know that won't happen, so in the mean time, I'll have to cope with her.
Wow, that was a lot, sorry you guys.
UPDATE:
We are all better...now. My mom and stepdad just put together a desk for my room, and it looks nice. I'll post some pics in my post about new computers, I think it's OHMIGOSH!!!!

[Tina ☺]

Re: Rant #1:

There will always be some folks in this word that are intolerant of folks who don't follow what they consider 'the norm, or traditional way of doing things. It sucks, but that's just way it is. Me? I could care less what someone else does on their own time. It is not for me to judge and let he who is without sin cast the first stone. I think it would have been AWESOME to see Adam win American Idol. He was clearly the best in my opinion. But, then again, it is probably better that he didn't win because now he can just go about doing his own thing without having to follow the Idol rules. He's supposed coming out with a cd in the fall and I'll be the first in line to buy it! ;D

Re: Rant #2:

First of all... *BIG HUG* Secondly, I modified it to cut it down into smaller paragraphs so as to make easier for me, and others, to read. Those LONG blocks of text bunched together almost kill my poor eyeballs!

Anyway... I'm so sorry about your conflict with the woman who gave birth to you and is trying to raise you until you reach manhood. It's not easy living with someone who has very different views an opinions. I don't know much about your living conditions or your life in general, so it's not easy to know what to say, but I will say this:

I'm coming from 'the adult' point of view and if you were my kid, you would NOT be up so late at night playing on the internet because I am very over-protective of my children. My girls were not allowed to play on the net when they were your age. They didn't go online except for doing research for school until they were in their late teens and then I still made sure they were not hanging out at sites that could get them into trouble.

Like I said, I don't know much about the way things run in your household, but I would be very annoyed if my kids slept until 1:00pm every day. Around here, we are lucky if anyone ever gets to sleep past 9:00am.

Maybe your mom would appreciate your company by staying awake to talk to her on a trip to get things for you. Maybe she's have a difficult bout of PMS or something. *shrug* I don't know. I can only tell you how I feel about my children growing up. I spent a LOT of time raising and nurturing my girls, only to have them grow up to not really need me anymore. It is a bit tough to watch that happen. I think her saying you should go live with your dad was most likely one of those things you blurt out in anger and frustration and there's a good chance she didn't mean it at all and she may feel bad for saying it. But, like I said before, I don't that for sure, but that's how it would be if I said it to my kids.

Bottom line:

If you want understanding, respect, and forgiveness, then give a little understanding, respect, and forgiveness. I know it's hard, but a little empathy goes a long way. Just try to put yourself in the other person's shoes to try to understand what that person is feeling.

In any case, I hope things settle down and get better for you soon. It may help if you go to bed earlier and get up earlier most days and save those late night internet interludes for the occasional treat. lol

Here... have another big *HUG*

[Harley]

Well ya probably don't want to hear this...BUT


Get ya bett up and get usefull to your family..Attending classes last year did not buy you the right to be a diva and sleep your life away..

Get Up..Get busy..Get halpful..Get happy..Get sad..Just get up and participate in life young man....


Makes no difference to me if you like girls or boys....

But you gotta love and Honor your folks more....


Like my wife tells our kids....She gave them life, she can take it away too...


Be thasnkful you have your health, family, food and a roof over your head....


Now go to bed..If you were mine there woild be no computer with internet for you at your age....

[Sawyer]

Thanks Tina, *Hug back*
I guess that I will just have to get used to that, there are some people who will simply not tollerate it. *sigh*
Now that we have stopped being mad at each other, I realize that I was in the fault for a few of those.......or most.

She doesn't really care how long I stay up, it's mostly how long I sleep in till. Like, I could go to bed at 6am and get up at 7am, and that would be fine....if only I could run on one hour of sleep....ugh.

We made a deal that I would have to get up at 11am everyday. That may seem really late to some people, but to me, that's perfectly fine. I guess it's fine with her too.
I'm not only on the internet at night, sometimes I'm playing sims, watching tv, or reading. Or occasionally writing a story (not a sims story).

When I do stay awake, all she does is sit there and drive. Ugh, I try playing I-Spy with her, but I get this..."Sawyer! I'm trying to concentrate on the road!" (except she doesn't call me Sawyer)
THANKS HARLEY! Wow, you haven't been online in forever!
The whole computer internet thing is....just our way of life! I have four computers, and internet on every one of them. Lol, I'm going to bed soon, thanks. ;D ;D ;D

[Tina ☺]

That's the whole thing, Sawyer. The staying up late ties directly into sleeping late! That's a good boy. Now... go to bed! ;D

I'm glad y'all were able to compromise.

I'm going to bed soon too! *yawn*

[joandsarah]

Sawyer I have to agree with both Tina and Harley in that my kids will not be chatting on the internet to just anybody at 13. Also I would be pulling off your blankets by 10am if not before.

Sorry things are tough at home, I think most teens feel that way. So as I am not a fly on the wall at your place I can't say if you have it any worse then anyone else you know. Hopefuly you can sit down and talk to your mum about things. Just remember your mum went through a lot of stuff to raise you to 13. It isn't easy. It also isn't easy being a teen, 13 and 14, well at least for girls is just about the hardest time ever. I assume it's hard for boys too.

[Nicole]

My parents are pretty relaxed, the most I did at your age was go on msn and sneak out once or twice. My parents have always allowed me to get up around 12-2. But never past 3. I got to bed around 4am, but I do wake myself up or try to get up early half the week, lol.

Mother's can be interesting to live with, my mom and I are both very stubborn and used to hit heads a lot when I was younger. But once you get over the hump of 14 it'll probably be a lot better.

[Sawyer]

Thanks, Jo. I think half the problem is that I'm in a really crappy mood all the time. And, I'm being really ummmmm..............self-centered. I didn't even think about her side of the story. I only thought about me. Ugh, I need to think about others for once. I'm an sorta-only child used to getting what I want, so that's a tough one for me.....;D Ugh, here we go again. I'll try to do better in the future.
Yeah, that's about the same with me, Nicole. I rarely get up after 1-2. I go to bed around 4-6am though. I've never sneaked out! Lol, I hope your mom didn't find out!
Good to know that I am near the end of this!

[Tina ☺]

Well, Sawyer, knowing that you are being self-centered and selfish and admitting it is half the battle of being able to change and try to do better.

You don't have to be religious to know that what the bible says about treating others the way you would like to be treated is a great policy. It just makes a lot of sense.

[jillyson]

Poor Sawyer! That's a rotten age. My mom went thru a horrible menopause when I was a teen, and I was pretty sure one of us wasn't going to live to see the other side of it! Lol!
I don't care who you like - it's a hard world to find love in, and if you're lucky enough to find it, then you should grab on with both hands. Girl, guy, black, white, plaid. Whatever. Love is love. It's got to be hard being 13 with the raging hormones AND have the secret issues in the mix, too. Parents try & do the right thing, but we make mistakes ALL the time too. As long as both sides are willing to work on their own mistakes, and it sounds like you all are, I'm sure everyone will be fine.

[holleyberry]

I think sleeping in until noon during the summer is just a teenage thing. I didn't have the internet when I was in high school, but my curfew was 11 PM and I would be out until then and probably up a couple more hours on the phone or reading magazines.
I would go to bed at 2 or 3 AM and get up about noon.
My parents worked so me and my sisters didn't have anyone complaining about the hours we kept.

I snuck out a couple times too Nicole. My friend and I went to the park to meet some boys. We got caught
My friends and I would TP peoples houses or make crank calls. It was a fun time.

One summer my sisters and I watched Dirty Dancing everyday.

Wow the things you remember.

[Pixx]

Good to know I'm not the only one having family problems. I go to bed mad and I wake up mad. I don't have my own space when my little cousin is around she just walks in and out of my room, there can be a million seats on the couch and she'll sit so close that she touches me (I hate humans and I was NOT raised to be compassionate and emotional and affectionate and whatever--parents fault not mine).

Then my mom came down to for some kinda seminar thing and I was forced to sleep in the hotel because my little cousin wanted to. Nobody ever listens to me NOBODY!!!

Sawyer if you wanna trade families I'm up for it

[Sawyer]

Aww, I'm sorry Pixx and Jill! Jill I'm pretty sure my mom already went through all that, but she hasn't taken her "happy pills" in a while. I think she needs to go back on them, it's really taring us apart. And thanks for saying that you don't care who I like. Ugh, all my friends want to know 24/7 about this stuff. D:
Pixx, your family does sound pretty bad, worse than mine by a long shot! Between you uncle, and now this! I'm so sorry, but how old is she?

[Pixx]

My little cousin? 7...wanna keep her?

[Sawyer]

Lol! No, I have a little 7 year old blood bag on my mom's side of the family. *cringe* He might be 8 or 9 now though.